Do not want kids dating
In addition, if you do not want any (biological) kids of your own, do not assume that just because she has one or more child from a previous relationship that she does not want anymore with you. As a continuation of the above point, one of the hardest changes for many single men who decide to date a woman with a child is realizing they are not in first place. This is a hard adjustment for many men to make because when you’re single and don’t have any kids, you can be as selfish as you want.
I’m 44 years old, have never been married and don’t have kids. I’m unsure, given my age, that this will happen naturally, but am open to adoption or if he has kids. It seems really early to be even talking about the subject.
But while the relationship with the father of the woman’s child should not dictate your relationship, their relationship –- whether good or bad –- will play a role in your lives.
It’s important to know what you are getting yourself into.
Frequently on a first date or even at a mixer, I get the question from men about if I want kids or not. Right now I’m looking at finding the right connection that will lead to marriage and once that connection is made…we would make these kinds of decisions together.
So it’s hard to say a set answer to a guy who asks this so early on. While it may be tacky for a man to lead with such heavy artillery upfront, you can’t control what they want to know, and you can’t blame them for wanting to know it.