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Abel is far from the only author tackling this subject: in addition to his two books, Dating a Widower and Marrying a Widower, there is Julie Donner Anderson's Past: Perfect! and that knowing how few men under 55 are widowed compared to women (at one time Social Security told me it was 1 man to 7 women) makes me quite skeptical...
but some of the stories Abel and his readers share are pretty dreadful.
In any other situation, finding a mate is all happiness, but with a widower, it can be tempered with guilt.Not that it’s his fault, but he might forget how to date properly and might not make the effort. It is hurtful to wonder if he will ever love u as much as his late wife, if you’ll ever be the most important person to him, if his loved ones are comparing you.The widower needs to learn how to be sensitive to you, as you are to him. Its hurtful to see that his identity is based on being her husband and you wonder if he can create a new identity.This is a giant set of exceptions that negates, for me, a lot of Abel's advice.To be honest I have been pretty suspicious of these areas in part because when I was dating, at 40 ... To me, the only relevant person to compare a widower's baggage to was... (I mostly restricted my searches to men who had been parents, because I had a young child and needed someone who'd understand that if I cancelled a date due to flu that he shouldn't take it personally... prejudices which had been confirmed by experience.).